Something that most people don’t realize about me is that I am an introvert. I love spending my spare time alone. Now, since I have worked in offices all my adult life, in customer service and reception, associating with lots of people was my job. And, IMHO, I was good at it. So the idea that I want to be by myself on my time off is foreign to most of my friends.
When someone asked me what I’m doing with my day now that I’m retired, I can honestly say, “Nothing much.” I check Facebook, play some computer games, binge watch old TV shows, catch up on movies I missed over the years, go on walks, write, read, … Oh, OK, I guess I am a bit busy. But it’s solitary stuff. And I love that.
Now, don’t get me wrong, I like people. I enjoy socializing. I can do small talk with anyone. But…when I need to re-charge my energy, I want to get away and be by myself. Extroverts re-charge with others. Introverts, alone. Long walks in nature, a good book, music, that’s what renews my spirit. I can go for days without talking to anyone.
I didn’t really know what introvert meant until I was older. It’s nice to know that being a loner is actually more normal than I ever believed growing up. Right now, it’s a popular topic. A good book on the subject is Quiet: The Power of Introverts in a World That Can’t Stop Talking by Susan Cain, if you’re interested.